The problem was that I just couldn’t get out. I convinced myself that couples went through things like this, but the more I observed our married friends and how they related to each other, the more I realised I was fooling myself. I just couldn’t believe what was happening and buried everything beneath a happy-go-lucky exterior. I continued to ignore my gut feeling, even when he became increasingly cold and even aggressive towards me.
READ MORE: The 5 love languages might completely transform your relationship – here’s howĭespite all the warning signs, two years later we got married and now have a child together. When I think back now, I believe Richard was the one who needed to talk to his once married, now openly gay friend about his own dilemma. I made myself scarce and thought nothing more of it. I heard the faint tinkle of alarm bells, but I told myself not to be ridiculous – Richard’s line of work made him sufficiently equipped to counsel a troubled friend, so it made perfect sense that this guy would be coming over for a chat. READ MORE: “ I cheated on my husband – and this is why I did it” No prizes for guessing the details – this friend was gay, but before you shake your head at me, the friend (who’d been married previously) was also a familiar part of the crowd from his old neighbourhood. Then one day, Richard said a friend was feeling depressed and was coming over to talk. We moved into a flat and became distracted with work, social engagements and the daily grind. Another faint tinkle of alarm bellsĪfter the porn incident, things were fine for a while.
There had been rumours that he’d broken off his previous engagement because he was gay, which didn’t surprise me at the time… Heaven alone knows why I didn’t think about that prior to walking down the aisle.
To be honest, I always had a nagging suspicion (or fear) that Richard might be otherwise inclined. READ MORE: 10 signs you’re in a toxic relationshipīut although I’d been convinced otherwise, the seed had been planted.